
To start with, this was relatively benign. We were just trying to be helpful. Two things began to change this. First was the growth of community. Maintaining order in the households began to require help in making much more significant life decisions; marriage, job, education etc. Second, we the people, in trying to grow in our submission, submitted major life decisions to the eldership (see Larry's article above). Even as this was happening, most of us really weren't comfortable making big decisions for people. I personally became involved with some of these decisions -- but was always uncomfortable with them. I believe strongly in personal responsibility. People need to make decisions for themselves. Yet, in spite of these reservations, our conviction that order in the church required a "laying down of our lives" (major submission) prevailed. Thus, the scope of authority of the eldership continued to grow. As the authority increased, the opposite among non-elders (and elders alike), submission, also grew. This brought about some unintended consequences that I will discuss in the next post.
What I am referring to is alluded to by Larry Clark in a general way. Specifically, I will be discussing in a later post my decision to leave the Navy. Things that I participated in were: Should I marry this person? Can I go back to school? What kind of job should I get? Should I close my business?
ReplyDeleteAs to your question about doing things differently, see my next post on unintended circumstances. However -- a simple answer is yes, I would do things differently.